Here are some general guidelines for successful and satisfying gift giving to a date, lover, or mate. In order to best judge an appropriate and effective gift, however, requires looking at the various stages of a relationship. That is to say, in other words, gift giving with a new dating partner can be very different from getting presents for an established lover or mate.
When it comes to early dating, gift giving is usually more of a transaction. It is basically a reciprocal exchange. At this starting stage, men especially might be motivated to buy lavish gifts in order to escalate the relationship. Such gift giving generally makes the giver feel good, but it is highly likely that the recipient will not have the intended effect. As a matter of fact, big gifts early in the dating process may actually make a partner feel anxious, obligated, as well as, manipulated. So in short, guys, buying that big item for your new girlfriend will most likely not result in the desired effect.
Given that, early dating gift giving should aim at being relatively inexpensive, reciprocal, and somewhat thoughtful. It is more about giving gifts of roughly equal value that consider the other person’s interests. Also, if you want to increase the attraction and passion in your relationship, you might want to buy some tickets to an exciting or stimulating activity. Besides, shared excitement builds desire much better than expensive gifts.
On the other hand, in established relationships, gift giving becomes more emotional, as well as, symbolic. Gifts at this stage are used to show appreciation and gratitude. For men especially, gifts may actually be a way to help show their value as mate, while keeping their partner attentive at the same time. This gifting strategy does not usually work as well for women. This is because men often tend to respond much better to sexual reciprocation in order to keep them attentive.
So it can be said that, gift giving has a more symbolic and relationship regulating function in the longer-term mating process. Such gifts are often end up being one-sided expressions of love. It does not demand immediate reciprocation. So more thought and expense is often a part of the long term relationship process. What is important is that the nature, as well as, investment should be proportional to the partner’s emotional gratitude. So in other words, your gift will only enhance the relationship to the level that your partner is grateful and appreciative of your investment.